Large Families are a Blessing

It still happens. I still get negative comments about how many kids I have. I still get those raised eyebrows when people hear that I have seven sons. Some just say, “I don’t know how you do it.” But some comments are much more hurtful.

In the early days, when I was still having children, I would get the question “are you still trying for a girl?” I was never  trying for anything but a healthy baby. Actually, I wasn’t really trying for anything at all, just welcoming each little boy as God sent him.  And God was so good to us with the arrival of each son. Some came with complications but nothing we couldn’t handle with the Lord’s help. My oldest turned thirty this year and with each passing year I can tell you that having a large family is still a blessing. And now with grandchildren arriving and the family growing, I can see that our lives will be rich until the end.

Why do some people have so much trouble with large families? Is it that they have bought into the “over population” propaganda? Or is it that they are too self centered to imagine sharing so much of themselves with someone else?  Those could be likely answers.

But I found  this article about the connection between the anti-large family position and the pro-abortion message that made me see a new side to this issue. The article talks about how, as a society, we’ve come to believe that it is a responsibility to limit our family size and not just a personal choice. We’ve been taught to believe that it’s irresponsible to have more than two children. This thinking has only become popular in the last fifty years or so. Strangely, about the same time as the free thinking 60’s began which paved the road to Roe vs. Wade.  Our parent’s and grandparent’s generations didn’t have an opinion about how many kids a family  had unless those kids weren’t being taken care of properly.

There is also something else to consider. In previous generations, there was an understanding that in order for a family to prosper or sometimes even survive, there had to be children. Families depended on their offspring to help with the family farm or business. And the parents also looked to their grown children to help take care of them when they became old and unable to care for themselves.  Now, people are all about self-sufficiency. We don’t need anyone, we can manage all by ourselves.  This doesn’t just effect individual families, it effects our entire society. This article talks about how as the birth rate continues to drop there is concern that there won’t be enough people contributing to the economy to support our country. And it’s not just our country, it’s happening worldwide.  I don’t think that is the way God intended it to be. He said for us to be fruitful and multiply for good reason.

Things have definitely changed as our society as become more about the individual an less about community. But those of us who have experienced the joys of a large family know that there is nothing like a crowd of people to love all at the same time! And we likely won’t be alone in our old age!

One thought on “Large Families are a Blessing

  1. Love, love, love this post. One day Dh and I were walking into a hotel with our brood of five (which later became 7). A woman sneered, “You must be crazy to have all of these kids.” I said, “I may be crazy, but when I’m in a nursing home, I will have lots of visitors.” She was clearly stunned by my reply.

    What if God created our spirits? What if he sent us down to earth to gain bodies so that we could, someday after this earth life, become resurrected, as Jesus, and be resurrected because of Jesus, with glorified immortal bodies, and what if families can be together forever in those glorified immortal bodies to have eternal joy together with God and our families?

    We can’t obtain that without being born. To help others obtain that by giving birth is not only unselfish but so satisfying and brings so much fulfillment and happiness as you have so wonderfully brought out in your post.

    In the Bible, Jeremiah 1:5, the Lord said to Jeremiah that before he formed him in the belly he knew him and before he put him in the womb he consecrated him. This scripture explains that God created our spirits before we were born, he gave us talents, he consecrated us, and gave us missions to perform. Jeremiah’s was to become a prophet, ours to whatever He has consecrated us for so we can also bless the lives of others on this earth.

    To limit our families is to put a barrier for others who want to fulfill God’s plan to come to earth and gain all that the Father wants to give them, including a body, and a family, and all of the glorious experiences this earth has to offer, and all of the glorious eternal experiences He has in store for us in the future.

    I feel that those who limit their families for selfish reasons will someday regret that decision when they realize that they have put limits on their blessings.

    Working with geriatric patients for several years, and talking to them, and seeing the consequences of loneliness, I know that those regrets can come before death.

    I am grateful for other families that have been unselfish and opened up their hearts to welcome as many souls into their lives as God has desired to give them, and have always been so amazed how He has provided for each of those children.

    Their faith has inspired me, and strengthened me to also open up my heart and home, and have been blessed with a girl and six boys.

    And I’m grateful the example you are setting and it strengthens me in raising boys. It’s not an easy job, but it is so fulfilling!

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